radude210 Posted February 13, 2009 Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 So, this being the one place where i know i can trust everyone to give me good solid advice i come with a problem. This is the first valentines day i have ever had where i have been in a pretty serious relationship.... getting my girl some roses and chocolates just won't cut it! I got her a few things she'll enjoy but aside from dinner at her favorite place what can i possibly do for the rest of the entire day!?!? i havn't got the slightest idea! Our town is boring and there isn't a nice or romantic thing to be found anywhere... and we always see movies so thats out. And of course she is wanting me to plan the whole thing out since she ALWAYS has to make the decisions.... or so she says. Help me FISD, you're my only hope!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daetrin[Admin] Posted February 13, 2009 Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 If you've read the 5 love languages you'll know that each person has a way they prefer to receive love, for some it's gifts, others time, others words of praise. The key is to spend time together doing something she enjoys. Take her shopping, then buy her something nice that she picks out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dougefresh Posted February 13, 2009 Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 Last year, my girlfriend at the time and I were lucky enough to Maui over the summer... and when V-Day rolled around, she kept joking about how nice it would be to go back. Well, I hadn't robbed a bank or won the lotto that year, so instead, I went to Cost Plus and bought a butt-load of tiki lamps, little tropical x-mas light thingies, some cargo net, a ukelele CD, and a bunch of pineapples from the grocery store, and tried to make the house look like a beach-front bar or something. She wigged out, loved it. And it paid off pretty nicely for me too. I was just thinkin' that if your town is kind of boring that maybe you could try something similar. Just an idea.... I'm single again now, so what the hell do I know? I agree with Paul --as long as she can tell you've put some thought and effort into it, and you really tried to make it something SHE would like, I don't see how you can go wrong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TK-8224[501st] Posted February 13, 2009 Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 I think it depends on what you do in your daily life. Make sure it's different from that! If you often eat at restaurants, cook for her, if you often cook for her take her out etc. If she has any passions, you could always use them to make her day. But remember, it's your day too, and she should give you a nice day too. Make sure you find something that you both will enjoy. And remember chocolate. Always chocolate! We girls love that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TK 6918[501st] Posted February 13, 2009 Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 Take her to the SPA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeR Posted February 13, 2009 Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 Good advice above. Women just like to know that you have put some thought into things, what you spend or do isn't as important. Here's some good advice: Valentine's Day can feel like a potential minefield, especially if you are in the early stages of a relationship or going on a first date. Here's advice on just how you can successfully navigate the challenges and have a perfect evening. SELECT A GIFT One of the first major Valentine's Day pitfalls to avoid is choosing an inappropriate gift. If this is one of the very first dates, you don't have to give her a gift. If you invite her out, you should pay for dinner and buy a nice bottle of wine if your budget allows it. If Valentine's Day happens to land in the early stages of a new romance (a few dates, before sex), it can be pretty tricky. In addition to the above, flowers are ok...but have them delivered prior to the date (sweet), do not hand carry them (try hard). If you do choose to do flowers, avoid a dozen roses. One or three is great. Things change when you're selecting a Valentine's Day gift if you're involved in a periodic romance situation (friends with benefits or any other relationship where sex is the focus and neither of you want or expect more). Here you can have some fun, be adventurous, and buy a gift that reflects the foundation of the relationship. This is the time to buy the gift that is risque and represents hot sex in a sexy but never insulting or degrading way. The fun, not-quite-Victoria's-Secret lingerie, the velvet handcuffs, fishnets and garter belts, videos, and sex toys. THE DATE With the proper gift obtained, there is still much to be done for setting up the perfect date, and you should start early. Spend the day flirting with her in text messages. Tease her, entice her, keep her excited about the special evening she will have with you. Let her know how much you are looking forward to the night, and that it is not just another date. This is, after all, Valentine's Day, and you are going to make it special. Anyone can give a bunch of flowers, and a box of candy, but only someone with imagination can do it with finesse. Remember that on the date itself, all of your basic Stylelife skills still apply. Keep your attitude fun and playful. It's important to be interested, and be interesting. Fascinate her, engage her, and take her on an exciting emotional ride. In the end, these are what matter most, not the location or activity. DESSERT Having a prepared dessert is a great excuse for the two of you to go back to your place together. Chocolates will stimulate a woman sexually, so use them wisely. The sexiest thing about chocolate is its taste and its unique melt-in-your-mouth quality. Try a bowl of strawberries and dipping chocolate. This will be amazingly fun and exciting. Make sure you have extra melted chocolate for finger painting. The body is a bare canvas. TURN UP THE ROMANCE If you really want to create special sensual effects for her, focus on stimulating all her senses at once with one or more of the following: * An assortment of different fragrant flowers strategically placed to fill the room. * A bottle of champagne. Not only does this stimulate taste, but touch as well as it tingles under her nose while she sips it. Keep these experiences all about sensuality, excitement and stimulation. * A sensual body massage using some lavender oils. It's true that a new romance is a difficult Valentine's Day to plan for because you do not want to rush a situation that needs a little bit of time to evolve. Simply stay attentive to her comfort levels and her level of attraction. Remember, ultimately there are no rules. It's about you and her creating a memorable experience. Now go have fun, and make it the best Valentine's Day for both of you! Hope this helps.... JoeR Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daric LaRone[501st] Posted February 13, 2009 Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 Brad, being a psychotherapist and marital counselor I would say the most important ingredient is quality time and communication; the where and when and all the material stuff is a distant second. Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smitty Posted February 13, 2009 Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 I was gonna tell ya to turn your cell phone off and go to the strip club. But it looks like everybody has it figured out for ya. Good Luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daric LaRone[501st] Posted February 13, 2009 Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 I was gonna tell ya to turn your cell phone off and go to the strip club. But it looks like everybody has it figured out for ya. Good Luck! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dougefresh Posted February 13, 2009 Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 I was gonna tell ya to turn your cell phone off and go to the strip club. But it looks like everybody has it figured out for ya. Good Luck! Smitty's on a roll today -- between this post, and your riff on bathroom convenience in another thread, you've made coffee come out my nose twice in one morning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radude210 Posted February 13, 2009 Author Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 holy crap! SO many replies, I think i am good as far as a gift goes (its been about a year dating for us, but not quite so its first v-day)..... We always eat before we see each other or she'll come over for dinner, or i'll go over there so we're going to one of her favorite resteraunts ever which is like a 45 minute drive out of town so we only went there once before together. But i definitly agree that quality time is a great thing and if it wasn't so freaking cold out I'd go for a walk with her or picnic or something like that where its just the two of us. But with that being a not so fun option its tough to think of something else to do we usually hang around the house or go shopping/movie so none of that! i want to actually talk to her too, but a shopping day in the big city might be a good idea that way we'll be in the neighborhood for when dinner rolls around! Either way, thanks guys! and keep the idea's commin! the more i have to choose from the better off i'll be Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TK-4510[501st] Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 Jewelry fits every woman and they love it if its in the budget. Worst gift? Teddy holding a heart...I hear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murray1134[501st] Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 Make it something personal and from the heart. It's always better if it shows you've been paying attention and that you put some real thought into it. Been married almost 5 years, and together for over 10. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tatooine Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 Well, seeing that this is a Star Wars forum you're seeking advice on, I would say the official answer to your problem would be to..... buy her a slave Leia outfit! The rest of the evening will pretty much plan itself out... Or, you could offer her one of those fem trooper outfits (the ones with the ta-ta's on the chest plate) as an alternate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smitty Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 I vote Slave Leia. Nothing says love quite like a metal bikini. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dougefresh Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 I vote Slave Leia. Nothing says love quite like a metal bikini. Agreed. Few things hold the romance and magic of skimpy metal underthings. Although, you have to admit-- it's a little weird to find so much appeal in a pair of unmentionables that might require a tetanus shot. Lockjaw can really spoil a moment, if ya' know what I'm sayin. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TomaToNOR[501st] Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 Let's see... This is the 12th V-day me and my wife share (been together for 13 years in March ) Try to do something out of the ordinary for her. Fill up a hot bath for her, so she an relax. Heavy on the foam, with candles alongside. Make a great meal at home! Bet you haven't done that yet? Candlelit, you newly shaved, something you've cooked, and of course in a shirt (don't need the tie). Make a small book of pictures of the two of you. That way, you can both sit and talk about them, share the memories once more etc. etc. Many things one can do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TKCaleb Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 my girlfriend and I were talking about what to do tomorrow. We were thinking of going to the Aquarium, ice skating, or laser tagging. Then I entertained the thought of taking home some chinese food and watch a movie together. She liked it. Then we were thinking of what movie to watch and she said, "I never seen Star Wars. Lets watch that!" I thought to myself, SWEET! There is Nothing more romantic than Star Wars! HAHA. Me and my girlfriend have been together little bit over a year, but we were good friends before that. We usually plan are Valentine's days together. Last year, we both cooked a meal for one another. I had the table set with rose pedals, candles, and all that other good stuff. She loved the set up, and she liked the meal I made her. This year, I bought her a promise ring. I still want to do something out of the ordinary tomorrow, but I haven't decided exactly what yet. Best advice I can give you is, do something from the heart. Be honest with what you do, and don't worry so much on if she likes it or not. I have learned that the more you worry, the more easier it becomes for things not to go right. just my 2 cents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TomaToNOR[501st] Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 Yeah. Almost anything goes, as long as it comes from the heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TK-8290 Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 Well, I have been with my wife for 15 years, so we have dinners and movies for V-Day. However, with a relationship like yours, being new, I would think doing something she has mentioned in the past. Women love it when you remember things they said, especially when it is about something romantic or special they wanted. What ever you do, have fun Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radude210 Posted February 15, 2009 Author Report Share Posted February 15, 2009 Well what i ended up doing was taking her on a shopping trip in the city in a place we've never been to with each other before, i gave her a $100 budget and told her to go nuts she loved it! She also got me this HUGE marvel blanket with spidey, wolverine, and the hulk on it and its sooo fuzzy! I love it and so after shopping and dinner at her favorite restaurant we curled up in my new giant nerdy blanket and played some xbox before watching saturday night live and i drove her home good day...... Thanks for all the ideas! Really the best thing that i did (or could have done) was just be in situations where it was just the two of us being us... talking and being dumb alllll day, which was perfect! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TKCaleb Posted February 15, 2009 Report Share Posted February 15, 2009 Well what i ended up doing was taking her on a shopping trip in the city in a place we've never been to with each other before, i gave her a $100 budget and told her to go nuts she loved it! She also got me this HUGE marvel blanket with spidey, wolverine, and the hulk on it and its sooo fuzzy! I love it and so after shopping and dinner at her favorite restaurant we curled up in my new giant nerdy blanket and played some xbox before watching saturday night live and i drove her home good day...... Thanks for all the ideas! Really the best thing that i did (or could have done) was just be in situations where it was just the two of us being us... talking and being dumb alllll day, which was perfect! That sounds great man! Good for you! Im glad everything went well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
synaptyx Posted February 15, 2009 Report Share Posted February 15, 2009 Valentines? Oh, that'll be why I got a card! I went trooping. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThayNerd[TK] Posted February 17, 2009 Report Share Posted February 17, 2009 I took my girlfriend out to dinner and after that had a nice romantic night at home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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