Ah, but elitist /exclusionist depends on your pre conditioned perceptions of the two, if that is how you read into the situation, then that is what you will see and absorb...you can take it what ever way you like...This is the first time I have ever heard any type of reference to this on FISD, maybe we just get to comfortable with one another as a type of family unit and actually talk about what is on our minds with one another ...I don't know